Oikos Week 1: kernel policy, ontology, service contract, topology gen

Adds the Oikos agent-OS kernel: oikos/policy.yaml (risk classes +
approval rules for every homelab/MCP command), oikos/ontology.yaml
(8-domain systems model, typed relationships, node lifecycle), and
OIKOS.md (OODA loop operating brief, linked from AGENTS.md).

Extends inventory.yaml with a stable service contract (doc_page,
config_repo, risk_notes) on all 17 services, and a structured
archaeology: section for the 13 destroyed LXCs (was scattered
comments + a narrative table). Fixes stale drift found in the
process: authentik's backend pointed at a retired LXC (124); core
has run on the VPS since 2026-05-31.

Adds oikos/gen-topology.py, generating infrastructure/topology.md
(Mermaid compute/ingress + storage views) from inventory.yaml.
build_host_files.py now carries state/storage/depends_on into
generated hosts/*.yaml.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Fable 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

hosts/arriman.yaml

@@ -5,6 +5,7 @@ name: arriman
 kind: lxc
 os: linux
 role: arr-stack
+state: active
 host: strong
 pve_id: 122
 lan_ip: 192.168.8.245
@@ -28,6 +29,7 @@ services_hosted:
 - name: arr_stack
   backend: arriman
   note: jellyseerr / qbit / sab on docker compose
+  doc_page: containers/122-arriman.md
 notes:
 - Migrated from hubris to strong 2026-07-05 (Phase 2). Library on ludo-lvm.
 - Contains homarr, radarr, sonarr, lidarr, sabnzbd, qbittorrent, bazarr, flaresolverr, prowlarr, jellyseerr